Do Choices Have Consequences ?

Do Choices Have Consequences? –   yes they do, just as the sun rises and the sun sets


The difference between us humans and animals is being able to make a choice.  I am sure you have heard this before!

Choices do have consequences, just as the sun rises and the sun sets. Sometimes, it can be great other times it can be disastrous. I don’t know if you stayed up later than normal to watch your favourite Olympic event and of course had to be the Australians participating. Umm…! I said to myself when looking into the mirror after a late night/early morning. Not a pretty sight! Note to self – two choices stay up late or watch the replays when they come on.

We all are free to choose but not the consequences of that choice. Have you ever noticed that with every choice you make, the consequence of which, affects you emotionally.

Why does this matter you may ask?  In business this is extremely important, that’s why another perspective is vital.  Hang on a minute, “that means I’m not in control” Wrong, our brain can sometimes choose the decision we want but necessarily means it is the right one. There is an old adage which I am sure you have heard “two heads are better than one”  I am positive that is not referring to tossing of a coin

Another way of looking at it, is, that most of us choose the least risky option as we all hate uncertainties, and can get caught up in looking for what’s missing   Have you ever looked at the pros and cons when trying to make a decision?   I have!  Did it help- not really I then got caught up in that cycle of which one

It was suggested that I look at things in a totally different mindset.   A mindset of: looking at choices in the framework of alternatives.  The ‘What if scenario’…, where the outcomes

are on a par of each other but each are different.

Best alternative then equals the best reason to do that.  Amazing, how this put a totally different picture on things

Celebrate the choices that challenge you,   they are definitely worth it, they help you grow, and become the real person you want to be

Do Choices  have consequences?  Yes… just as the sun rises and the sun sets!



Gail Timms © 2016

How to be in Solution Mode in Setting Goals


How to be in Solution Mode in Setting Goals  

How to be in Solution Mode in Setting Goals. This blog is based on a recent talk by Dr H Kollias at a business event I attended, about the developments in Neuroscience around setting and achieving goals.

A question was asked of the audience” What is your Rhythm or Strategic beat when it comes to achieving goals?”

I must admit onlooking around, quite a lot of blank yet curious faces. For those present who had heard the quality of his previous talks; knew it was going to be an interesting and thought provoking talk.  We were in for the ride

 For the purpose of this talk, the analogy was music. Think of a sheet of music.

 Rhythm – is based on feelings (spaces) whereas Strategic Beat was based on science ( notes) 

Strategic beat is finding the tension inside you to take advantage.   Things that are done in certain ways, for me I refer this as habits or rituals. Once created no thought is put into doing it.

An example comes to mind which no doubt at some time you have been asked to do. Cross your arms without thinking. Now look down and see which arm is on top? Now reverse the order…  What did you find? Yep without thinking, depending whether you are right handed or left handed you generally cross your arms in that manner; when asked to reverse this you had to really stop and think what you were doing; and… it felt uncomfortable!

Maybe in business you do certain things in a certain way for years, and… it’s not until you have a new staff member who asks you why you do it that way that you really start  to question( maybe inner self) or just say “it’s always been done that way”  Guilty I scream inside myself and chuckle with others as they also have been caught out.

 Strategic Beat   comes in 2 parts, referred to as the 2xC’s


Contingency – planning for what can go wrong.  You are actually thinking through what you are about to do; chunk the goal into bit size with “IF Then” statements. 

With Neuroscience, they’ve found,  moving towards something uses the positive part of the brain whereas moving away from uses the negative part of the brain. I suppose the best example of this is… you set to achieve a goal because you don’t want that thing to happen, instead of  wanting the end result.

So…if you are moving towards something it is a positive experience and you are in solution mode, whereas, you are moving away from (unless life threatening), putting you in to resistant mode

The gem of the talk is Ask yourself “ If this happens I’ll do this….”    Wham! You’re in Solution mode

Context – changes the way you look at things.  They have found by just focusing on the finish line ignoring all the surrounds,  tells your brain your goal is a lot closer, easier and achievable

It was also recommended to do tasks in short sharp bursts of 45-90 minutes max, only one task at a time.  In other words, you chunk down the goal into bite sizes, focusing on one task at a time always moving forward towards your goal Woohoo!  No more undone to do lists! No more adding to the list to be done tomorrow

Who wants to De-Clutter their inbox?   Who has too many emails? Suffers from information overload?

Solution:  How to De-clutter your inbox.   Have two folders – Important and Later.

De-clutter everyday 5-10. Read the important, act on the important and move on

By the end of the week, you will find the’ Later folder’ contents are not relevant. By deleting the contents you will breathe a sigh of relief!

 By the end of two months you will only look at the Important.  yay!

This gives you the clarity of focus on what needs to be done, giving you the how to be in Solution Mode in achieving your goals


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Fear-Being Afraid or Just Risk Adverse part three

     Fear -Being Afraid Of Risk or Just Risk Adverse  

    Part three


Remember self-talk first then solution given (they have…-get to…)

They have more resources – get to work and make it happen

Too much is going on (I’m busy) – eliminate or delegate with the right responsibility and accountability, gives you clarity

It won’t work – prove it!

I’m not good enough (funnily or sadly this has been one of my themes) – reframeYET! Develop a growth mindset and take action

Best antidote is to focus on the things that make you take progress. Ask yourself “is this taking me to or away from my goals?”

Find the right advice, find the right strategy to work and commit to!

When I go over this I can relate to my self –talk content …and ooh does it suck at times.

If it’s to be it’s up to me!

 I think we all have heard that at one time or not. For the life of me I cannot recall the name behind that quote


In concluding this conversation with you, there is One thing oops Two things more I will ask 

If you were to take action on one thing, what would that be?

Secondly, who is going to be your accountability partner to help you achieve?

Let’s make 2016 Your Year of Action! YAY!

Ps: Click here to let me know what action are you going to take?

Pps: You will find there is a common theme to  this self- talk that you choose to hold you back whether it’s improving your health and energy, business or career.

No more Fear- being Afraid of Risk or Just Risk Adverse

 Good luck and Go Forth! Action with No Buts

Cheers    Gail J  © 2016


Chat soon

Gail  🙂   ©2016

Fear-Being Afraid or Just Risk Adverse

Fear -Being Afraid Of Risk or Just Risk Adverse  

Part two of three


As previously discussed whether you find fear – being afraid of Risk or just risk adverse?

Here is some of the common self- talk, we have with Inaction. With each inaction thought, there will be a solution. Will warn you, am being very straight forward with you all, no pity party here! Remember this is my note to self!

Common Self –Talk ( thoughts) we have with Inaction

Waiting for help – don’t wait Just Act

Conditions aren’t right – so what… do it anyway

Made wrong choice, should try something else – with this one you will need to reflect on your past history with this one. Has it become your default setting? If so go back and look at the reason behind your fear!

I don’t know where to begin – just take action does not matter how small

I just need to… no you don’t, that is justifying your actions, will not get you anywhere

No it won’t work – Reframe to how can I make it work?

I’m not getting anywhere – remember it is a process to achieving, so tick things off as you go along the process journey

Need to know more – Action is your research, get to work and learn

Get overwhelmed – chunk it down and act on one aspect first and then proceed

I’m a perfectionist – get over yourself oops! Yes I know I am being tough! Be a reconstructed perfectionist

To help you absorb what has been discussed, I have deliberately shortened this component into two.


Hopefully this will give you time to take

Ps: let me know what one action you are going to take click here

PPS: For it all to work…Sssh!…most importantly, the Second action you need to take, is in Part Three!

Chat soon

Gail  🙂   ©2016

Fear – Being Afraid of Risk or Just Risk Adverse

Fear – Being Afraid of Risk or Just Risk Adverse

Part one

Have you ever thought of, fear- being afraid  of risk, or just risk adverse? 

Before I start may I ask you to think of one thing you know you have been putting off, to get you where you want! Maybe it’s making that phone call you’ve been dreading, an email you want to send but unsure of the content, asking your boss for a raise…

Whoa! No doubt you have many more you can think of. I did say one. Hehe!

Or is it plain ole procrastination? I feel there is a lot of similarity to both… or…are you overthinking the situation. Hang on, I‘ve just given you some more possibilities   Oops!

You know what! I don’t think I have questioned my fears that way.

By writing this article which is quite lengthy, I want to be able to give some solutions to those thoughts that seem to run away with us particularly when it is something new.

Attending a Business meeting, and the speaker Chris Bugden spoke about this topic which really gave me that aha moment, to help me move along; and am hoping this article can help you as well.

Here are some common thoughts with the solutions that I feel sure you will relate to. I know I have thought of these at some time or other (not to self…take notice and Act) Hang on Gail you are jumping ahead.

If action forces us to take risks why don’t we act? Do we overthink our fears?  Antidote is to take Action.

If fear is just false expectations that seem real to us why do they dissipate when we act.  To us they are real. Is it because we don’t want to get out of our comfort zone? The next time you can ask yourself… “By taking this action is the damage irreversible?”  If not, take action; asking, “What can I learn from this as I take action?”

You don’t want everyone to see you’re wrong. Umm, so what… others won’t pay your bills, learn from the experience, or get the rewards you are working so hard for. Nike it! Do it!

Yep, get started else you are never going to learn how to be better. Who would have thought Motivation follows action, not the other way around. So when you tell yourself, “I am going to get motivated so I can do this.” Wrong!  Re-frame!~

Action = Courage = Resilience = Focus = Motivation

There are two pains from inaction. Action – the pain being temporary. Why temporary?  Well, the temporary pain of discomfort is replaced by the feeling of achievement when done no matter how small that action step is.

Or, secondly…regret is with everlasting pain. If only!… Which do you prefer?

In other words, a book comes to mind which is brilliant. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway- by Susan Jeffers.   If you are wrong, you’re wrong; if you are right… the World is Your Oyster!

In Part- two I will give you some common thoughts, we have experienced at some time for inaction, and will provide the solutions with each thought.   

PS: Have you come up with somethings you really want to do and been putting off?  You will have to wait for the solution to your inaction in the next article.


Gail  © 2016

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 Let’s make 2016 be a year of Action! 

Good Decision Making – Pothole or Sinkhole

Good Decision Making –  Pothole or Sinkhole

Are you in a pothole or Sinkhole when Making Good Decisions   Part 2


In the previous blog, I discussed with you the 7 steps we need to go through when making Good Decisions. How did you go? Umm?

As promised here is the checklist to go through. I am curious to find how many beliefs/ self-saboteurs/-self-talk you experienced at one time or another, or… like me, many times.

I am on a winning streak…

Change is risky – I should just continue doing what I know

If that part’s OK, then the rest must be OK as well

If it comes to mind easily, it’s probably the most likely thing to happen

I might be putting out the fires, but at least I am doing stuff

No one can know the truth about everything, but I’m sure I know everything about this

I know this is the right decision, because it proves what I believe to be at the time

I know this looks bad, so I’ll ignore it because it’ll probably change soon anyway

I just know it is right, it has a lot of value as it means so much to me

Success builds success

Surely I could grab 10% of the market share

I made a huge investment, it should payoff

It has to be perfect to succeed

I can’t make a decision unless I’m ready

I have to make a decision because damage is being done (losing perspective)

I’m in too deep to change my decision now

It’s amazing how we try to justify ourselves that we are making a good decision. Our self- talk can be the biggest saboteur of all.

So, by having the process clearly in our mind when making a good decision, it is the best avenue to take to assist in making good decisions. As we continue to use the process in Part 1, it becomes second nature to us and no more Potholes or Sinkholes when making good decisions

May I ask you – Are you in a Pothole or Sinkhole when making Good Decisions or… is it the process or your belief system that is getting in the way.

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Ps:  If you want to download  your Free Copy of the checklist to refer to, click on the link  Self-Saboteurs when Making Good Decisions


Stay well and have some Fun!!


Gail 🙂

Good Decision Making – Pothole or Sinkhole

Good Decision Making – Pothole or Sinkhole

Are You in a Pothole or Sinkhole when making good decisions?  Part 1

Hang on a minute, now don’t rush me! Umm… I don’t think I have ever thought of describing making good decisions in that way. Have you?

I was listening to a speaker at a weekly Business meeting I attend and thought it would be a great topic for a blog. What a way of looking at things I said to myself.

If I am anything like many, I believe…that when making decisions let alone good or bad really depends on a whole lot of stuff. Like, how I was feeling at the time, stressed for time, what was happening around me, how important it was, and did I feel in control and so on.

He then talked about the process we go through to reach making a good decision, and the self- saboteurs (self- talk) or others might say beliefs… which really frames our decision- making. Often it is our beliefs/self-saboteurs that will often interfere with making decisions and the consequences that follow, whether short term or long term.

Before I go into the process, I thought back to school days and university-days (many moons ago). We, just made decisions, no one, I mean no one. ever talked about how to do it! We just did it! How better prepared we all would have been if it had been done differently, I wonder.

Seven Steps or Principles to assist in the art of good Decision Making (these are in the form of questions to ask yourself)

  • Are you working on the right problem? Clarity will give you good results
  • What is your objective? Note this is framed by your values, fears, interests and aspirations
  • Have you really considered all the alternatives? NB: Your best decision cannot be any better than your best alternative for it to succeed
  • Do you understand all the consequences?
  • What are the trade-offs. An example of this would be, Family vs work, alternatively work vs family
  • What are the things you are unsure of? You need to be fully aware of these, if your decision is going to stick. If it is beyond your risk tolerance, you won’t be able to stick with it!                               
  • Maybe as you become more experienced, you will expand your risk tolerance and your decision zone.


  • What are the other decisions that will be affected by this decision? Which of  goals affect tomorrows decision, or which of tomorrows goals affect today’s decision

So how did you go? Do you follow these step when making good decisions? Or …have you really not thought about it? Or are you in a Pothole or Sinkhole

In Part 2 of –  Good Decision Making – Pothole or Sinkhole

To follow on, I will discuss some of the beliefs/self-saboteurs/ self- talk we all have been guilty of at some time or other with good decision making

I will make it a checklist for you and then you can let me know how many you have done one time or the other.

I know, I can relate to more than I really wish to admit. Sinkhole, Pothole or many?

Feel free to let me know on my Facebook page and we can continue this discussion

Looking forward to it,

Until next month…

Stay well and have some fun!!


Gail 🙂


When Not Achieving a Goal is Okay

When Not Achieving a Goal is is Okay!                                                     

Yes, that’s right…you may ask, when not achieving a weight loss goal is Okay?

In a discussion with a dear friend and close business associate this topic came up. It made me stop and really think what she had said. I immediately thought of, how many people have crashed and burned because they have denied themselves of so many foods when on a fad diet; e.g. cabbage diet, soup diet and many more. Little do they understand that a fad diet is just that! It is temporary!

Our brain recognizes the food we eat and the goodness in it. If we deny ourselves eating other variety of foods we are deliberately starving our bodies of the right nutrients (the goodness in foods) that help our bodies work fully, and our brain says “hey I need more food to get the stuff I need to work properly” we then have Cravings, blow our diet and it’s all over!  You often say to yourself… “what’s the use”

I usually ask my clients to think back when their children were learning to walk. They all did it differently. Some children never crawled but rolled around before they started to learn to walk. Some took to it easily, whereas others often kept falling then getting up again with loads of encouragement and a helping hand. Just like learning to walk, we all failed in different ways but got up again until we could do it.

It’s the same thing when we are adults. For some reason we all think we should be able to do new things straight away; and failing is not okay! Even our school system helps to reinforce this attitude with our children not being allowed to stay back a grade if they are not up to that standard. It is all wrong. Failure is a part of life, how can we learn if we don’t make mistakes?



Ssssh! There is a big secret I want to share with you.

                     It is Okay to fail as long as you get back up and start again. So stop beating yourself up, pick yourself up and start again but not with a fad diet. As a friend of mine would often say press “Ctrl Alt. Del. and reboot!”

Big news item. We are not all the same! Umm… just as well

In a nutshell:

It’s okay to break out! Yes you heard. The secret trick is to get up and start again

Fad diets are temporary! Short results or no results and you are back to square one. No fad diets allowed – seriously!

Change your food habits, start eating good nourishing foods in moderation. Enjoy those breakouts as long as you restrict it to one meal, and then, get back onto your program of healthy eating.

Incidental exercise with simple exercise will give you amazing results and… you can fit it in with everything else you have to do. A story I love to share!

I know of a’ truckie’ who loved eating sausage rolls or meat pies and coke for his snacks when working. After seeing his doctor, he had some bad news… apart from being extremely overweight he was heading for diabetes type 2 if he didn’t change his eating habits.

It was suggested, to change his snacking habit to having a protein bar and water instead of pies and coke, to do a lap of his truck every time he did a delivery. In actual fact he did this form of exercise twice for every delivery. He lost 5 kgs in one month. He is now feeling heaps more energetic, mood- swings are gone, has so much confidence, and his joints are not such a big problem any more.

His doctor was amazed; as his markers for diabetes had dramatically dropped, and of course, he was  told to ‘ keep on going.’

So the combination of, good nourishing meals in moderation, healthy snacking with a combination of simple and incidental exercise, will diminish your kilos, clears those mood swings, boosts your energy and you can watch your confidence grow!

Yes…when not achieving your weight loss goal is okay! As you now know, You… have the secret recipe for success!

 PPs: If you would like any help in rejigging your weight loss goals, drop me an email for a Free Discovery Session, or…if my blog could help a friend, you can share with a friend.

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Stay well and have some fun!!


Gail 🙂


How Does Change Make You Feel

Feelings we go Through

How does Change Make you feel?

Have you ever asked yourself how does change make you feel? Or… have you heard like I have, that ‘people don’t like change!’

For me change is simply put doing something differently! Attended a business meeting where this was talked about and… you know what it made sense. Come to think of it I can relate to all of the phases mentioned. Sometimes fleetingly; sometimes for long times, particularly, when I procrastinate.

As the speaker Dr H. Kollias put it…it is a process that’s all! And yes we all go through these phases to achieve change. Whew! No wonder it is so hard!

Have you ever thought what happens to you when someone mentions ‘change’? Do you become anxious – yes to that one… but sometimes I feel excited  or looking forward to the idea of change.


Now this can be fleeting or lasts for a short while before doubts and fe come on board. When this takes over everything else just flies out the window.

Then you have an attack of the ‘guilts’ because it’s not you! You can even think you have lost your identity particularly at your work or the role you play.


When I think of the different roles we play in our lives we can become, defensive, overwhelmed or depressed. It all makes sense! When we were once enthused or excited about the idea that we start to dig our heels in and become totally cold on the idea.



However, once we become familiar with the changes the good news is we have founds that it wasn’t that bad after all and start the acceptance phase


So the next time you are introducing changes you can expect all involved to be going through these phases at their own pace, not necessarily at the same time. It really is not easy… but, it Can Be Done! me, the best analogy for change is Nature

When I look at nature I am in awe! It is always evolving, or… it has died. In other word change is inevitable… yes we definitely live in a changing world

On the whole I find change invigorating, so, how does Change make you feel?

PS: I hope this is helpful for you the next time you start implementing changes and hit your first hurdle.

Love to hear your thoughts and experiences. What is it you dread most with change?



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What does Empowerment mean to you?

What does Empowerment mean to you?


I read a blog article by Bianca Board of Website123 who wrote on the 5 Empowerment strategies, staff Empowerment ‘ June 2015

It got me thinking! You hear or see this word quite a lot these days particularly from the service industries such a Life Coaching, Personal Development, in health, business etc.

I googled the word and this is what they come up with from the Oxford Dictionary :

 ” give ( someone) the power or authority to do something”.

Whereas Business Dictionary : Empowerment is based on the idea that giving employees skills, resources, authority, opportunity, motivation, as well holding them responsible and accountable for outcomes of their actions, will contribute to their competence and satisfaction. Umm…very formal. I think I prefer the first, don’t you?


Interestingly, to me empowerment is a process which can be for self or for staff. It is a process of encouragement, praise (authentic) clear communication that gives clarity as well as expectation, recognition for work well done, the true art of delegation, respect, collaboration trust and review.  In other words  a great leadership model to follow

Clear communication sets up real expectations, gives clarity of purpose, encourages innovation to do things better as well as team collaboration.

For me, Self-empowerment gives you the confidence, you know where you are at, the ability to collaborate effectively and give you outstanding results or rewards

In relation to feedback or review, in previous management roles I have always encouraged reviews with potential solutions. Have found this helps innovation, growth and ownership with much better participation. In actual fact it has helped tremendously with implementing changes; as everyone owns the change, working collaboratively as a team to achieve better outcomes.

Ps: Team can be just two people, you and your coach, working together to achieve the desired result!  to me an important collaborative approach which gives the best results!

I read somewhere, the best business meetings ever held were stand up meetings.  Yes stand up meetings! They were short productive and invigorating. Everyone was notified of the meeting with issues of concern to be discussed. There was one rule that was strictly applied; issues of concern were to be brought to the meeting with two solutions.

This empowered ownership, initiated productive discussions, with people leaving the meeting feeling totally invigorated. This process developed a collaborative and solution seeking working environment where people looked forward to the next meetings.

To me, this was respecting the most valuable possession for everyone and that was… time!

Ummm… maybe our politicians could adopt this procedure Wow! Just think how big a change that would be.   Ooops! Just couldn’t resist that one

So what does Empowerment mean to you? What does self – empowerment mean?

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Love to hear your thoughts,

Until next time..


Gail 🙂

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